Why its really hard to walk away from an abusive relationship

More often than not its asked to every woman who reports a rather long abusive relationship.I myself wondered why women choose to stay in abusive relationships rather than just walking away.Answer came to me after being in one such relationship.Its hard being a woman even in the 21st century.Many will not agree with me,i too wondered even after such almost bias legal rights for women how they still are alleged victims. But unfortunately its true,women are still the victims,victims of age old conventions,victims of patriarchy,victims of a society who treats them as unequal and inferiors.

In this 21st century and rather modern society if a woman dares to walk away from an abusive relationship she is the one who is blamed,for not being too flexible,  for having a career,or even for having courage to stand up against injustice or standing up for her self respect. She and her family becomes an object of curiosity and gossip.Gradually the family starts avoiding any chance of attending any event which will cause intense grilling of them as for why the marriage didn't work.

This particular behavior of society again discourages women to stand up against any injustice towards them by their paramour.They try to make things work,"He beats me only when he is drunk","maybe it was my fault too","He has a lot on his mind" ,"What will happen to my children if i walk out".Children being the biggest excuse which trumps the rest.They stay in such relationships till there  is an actual risk of them or their children being physically harmed or being thrown out of their house.

Even for women who are economically independent things are no easier when it comes to walking out of an abusive relationship.I have seen women who have to struggle being a single working women and are on top of that are painted as the culprits,as if they enjoy being single working mother.Single working mothers have a lot on their plate , social acceptance comes last still they are always worried about what implications their condition will have on their children.

Even for working mothers it is a very big step to walk away from an abusive relationship,walking away is not just about economic independence.So before you target a woman who has faced all this,its important to ask yourself is it really important to pass judgement on someone who is already fighting a battle you have no idea about. 

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